Passion Adds Meaning to your Life

Welcome back to my blog H4 folks. I hope you don't mind me calling you that way as some of my friend find H4 word daunting and I completely understand why! It's not really because we can't work in the USA but because of all these depressing blogs about this visa. I write about H4 Visa as well but, with an exception. I have learnt to live a life of joy on this visa and I feel happy to share how you can do the same!

     

This is just my 2nd blog and when I told my husband that I write blogs on H4 Visa topic, he asked me to find out some better topic that would be related to fashion, health, beauty, travel, in short to happiness. That was when I had strengthened my idea of blogging about H4 Visa. Everybody, including my husband thinks it is a sad topic to talk about! And I don't blame him as he has seen me depressed in past because of same mentality that I can't work on H4 Visa so my life is so screwed up!

Human's Mentality - We always want what we don't have

It is a basic human mentality that we crave for things that we don't have and do not appreciate what we do have. For example, I know that I cannot work in the US inspite of being qualified enough so every night I would dream of working and earning in this country, I get so obsessed with the thought that I keep trying several things and put myself into a negative bubble.

Now, what if I pay less attention to what I cannot do and more to what I can. I always wanted to learn a western dance form, dancing gives me joy and I could never do it while busy at work back in India. I always blamed my work timings that I have no time for my hobbies or passion. What if I start and end my day thinking about beautiful things in my life. I live in a beautiful city - San Francisco, my husband loves me so much, I have caring friends around, and so much else. Does all of this matter more than what I don't have or what I cannot do? When I try to balance what I have in one hand with what I don't in another, I feel happy with the results.

Now, don't start comparing your life with mine as it is just an example and comparing is the worst habit that we learn! Every person is different and they have different joys or problems in life. 

A smart person is not the one who works hard to get things in life but the one who is satisfied with what he/she already has.

Find Joy in Passion

The worst thing we can do to ourselves on H4 Visa is to disconnect ourselves with possibilities and people. Here I am talking about exciting possibilities like specializing in a dance form, learning to sing, expertise in baking/cooking, learn to paint/sketch etc. Every person in this world has a passion. It could be passion for cars, for gardening, for blogging and so many other things. How to explore your passion? Just think of something that gives you immense joy, something doing which you never gets tired and that you always dream of learning or expertise in. This passion will not only make you happy but could also result in money one day! Although I don't suggest possessing a passion because of money. If you are still confused, here are some fun ideas that might be your undiscovered passion:

1. Learning a dance form like Hip Hop(USA is best place to learn it!)

2. Baking healthy and delicious cakes/cupcakes/wedding cakes etc

3. Learn to cook - I have seen many ladies who started their YouTube channel/Website on this visa and it worked well!

4. Reading - You have so many public libraries in the US

5. Gardening - You can Volunteer at places if you don't have your own backyard

6. Learn to sing!

7. Fitness - Yoga, Kickboxing, Rock Climbing, boxing so much is there.

8. Arts - Learn to paint or sketch your thoughts 

9. Travelling - Here by travelling I mean anything outdoor like travel to a coffee shop, to a trail, beach, just keep exploring places around where you live! You will soon know of places where you can go everyday and feel happy.

10. Write a book.

These are only a few suggestions and remember that I am talking about passion here and 

not a hobby! 

So what's the next step once you know your passion?

Knowing your passion won't be just enough. You have to set goals, go out to work on it everyday, talk about it with people(especially when they ask do you work?!). Anybody will be impressed to know your knowledge on your passion! Also, post videos about it, write blogs. Doing this, you will be able to keep a record of your progress towards your own passion and watching those videos(or reading your own blogs) you will know how much you enjoyed it.

What do you do?

Have you heard this question in parties, outdoor meetings or when you meet your spouse's colleagues? I am sure you have. Well you don't have to say you can't/don't do anything. Answer to this question is not always if you earn/how much you earn but you can talk about you passion and you will be able to do that only when you work towards one. When someone ask's me what I do, I tell them I am learning Hip Hop, blog about positive options in H4 Visa(spouse defendant visa for US migrants), organize meetups for DesiGirls in San Francisco, do Bikrams yoga and am planning towards my Digital marketing company in India. People feel great to hear all this and I feel good about it as none of them is a lie! So, it's a motivation that I get from people's response when they say that they only dream of learning Hip Hop or that I utilize my time very well. 

We live in an era where you have so many possibilities, just don't block you mind and yeah stop reading bad news about H4 Visa lives instead focus on your passion! I would like to now end here with a thought that some of you will start working towards you passion after reading my blog :)